How does one forgive another person for a deceitful word or action?

“I cannot forgive someone who maliciously fabricated untrue information about me and that has caused me emotional stress and serious pain!”
Yes, we all have been injured and hurt by erroneous comments or actions at some point in our life. It can be a horrific and unjust experience. A friend befriending another, parent abusing a child, child lying to a parent, the list goes on… It is never easy to forgive someone. Forgiveness is usually a process or sequence of events. In fact it may be impossible to truly forgive without seeking God’s assistance.

Below are a few suggestions that may help resolve these conflicts.  Forgiving and forgetting doesn’t mean you should continue taking abuse from a hurtful person. Switch the focus from blaming others to understanding yourself. No one has the power to make you angry or resentful without your consent and you are unwilling to grant authority to that person. Non forgiveness robs you from – the ability to love and be kind to others – your peace of mind – the joy life brings each day.

Pray and ask the Holy Spirit to bless you, let him intercede on your behalf, allow him to comfort and council your mind and heart. All have sinned and fallen short of God’s grace. Jesus first loved us, he paid the ultimate price for ALL our sins. He chose to forgive us and to give everyone a second chance. Should we not do the same?

The following scriptures will provide additional understanding and comfort regarding Forgiveness.

Proverbs 19:11
Matthew 6:14-15
Matthew 18:21-35
Romans 12:17-21
Ephesians 4:31-32
Hosea 14:4